The loss of a child that you envisioned being your son or daughter forevermore takes time to heal. I assume some take the leap of faith to pursue another adoption while others may take a different route. Joe and I have turned back to our Reproductive Endocrinologist to exhaust the more "high-tech" treatment of IVF. How about you? What is or was your "next step" after adoption loss? How has your adoption loss made the next step more, or perhaps less, challenging?
Saturday, July 12, 2008
After Adoption Loss: Now What?
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I wanted a new referral immediately. According to my contract, that's what I should have gotten. But Joanne wouldn't do that, instead she left me high and dry. How'd that work out for ya, Joanne?
When my homestudy expired, I did an update on schedule. I found a new-and-improved agency for the same country, and I decided to try again. And almost as immediately, I changed my mind. I decided to wait until I finished my doctorate.
And now, I'm back on track, "trying" again. I don't like to state my exact plans publicly because I'm pretty sure Joanne still reads blogs.
I agree, I don't know if I'll EVER be over my loss. As time goes on, it's now been over two years since I asked for a new referral and over 18 months since Joanne said she'd e-mail me back, it gets easier to stop asking "What if."
Dawn and Joe, I do wish you the best as you try another route again to parenthood. "It" will happen eventually.
We lost our first referral when the family re-emerged to claim the child. We lost our second referral due to a medical diagnosis that removed her from the data base. Our third referral was the charm and she has been home with us for 2years. Each situation is different, as each agency, region and time frame varies. Blessings to you and Joe as you continue on your journey to build your family!
Three weeks ago, my husband left me. We were in the process of adopting from China. We were still in the queue and hadn't received a referral or anything. But my son and I still lost the sister and daughter we'd been hoping for. I've been suffering in silence, but my son let me know how unhappy he is by this development last night.
Anyway, since this is all still fresh, I haven't done anything, but I'm hoping that once the pain has died down a bit, I'll put in my bid with the county to be certified as a foster parent and an adoptive parent.
After that, who knows? I may stay a foster parent, I may adopt one or more of my foster kids. I guess we'll see.
My husband and I had a wonderful BM 19 months ago and the baby was born still born. In September 08, we were matched again and the baby was born on Jan 13, 09. The BM started having second thoughts 8 hours before and held us emotionally hostage for 36 hours and decided to keep the baby.
We decided to jump right back in and find our daughter. We have her room ready and our diaper bags are packed. We will be parents. Some day some how.
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